I and what you could call a flexivert. I can adapt to intense amounts of socialization, but yet I would also perfectly be content hanging out in the woods with myself for a long while. The longest solo excursion I ever did was 17 days, within that trip the longest stretch where I didn’t set ice on another person was 9 days. Throughout this kayaking trip in desolation sound British Columbia, I had an epiphany or series of epiphanies that have really stuck with me. Up until that point in my life I had always been a rugged individualist. Although in high school I floated between social groups, I never really felt the need to abide by that group’s rules all the time for to hang out with them. In addition I had extreme social anxiety and was quite introverted to begin with. In college I hit my stride and learned how to be extroverted I even started guiding kayak tours, and spent some time working as a more peppy version of a resident advisor. I learned how to be social but it’s still stressed me out. Well out on this trip I experienced the pangs of loneliness like I had never experienced before. I longed to have a simple stupid conversation with someone and it was overwhelming. But this loneliness fluctuated with periods of absolute ecstasy, wherein I recognized how mentally free I was to just think or not think and to explore at will. Hence this post is dedicated in tribute to that experience where I realize there were distinct trade-offs to operating in a group and operating alone. Additionally there’s no need to choose one path or the other but simply to realize which situations weren’t going it alone and which situations weren’t collaboration
Should I get married and have a family?
Many millennials are wondering whether it’s even worth the trouble to have children. Undoubtedly the cost her child has risen in Realtors astronomically. P ultimately the decision whether to have kids or not should be based off a number of factors and should depend on your ultimate goals in life. Here’s some stats to throw your way. 50% of marriages and then divorce. Legal fees or those divorces constituted x billion dollars per year. Many parents consider themselves to be happier than childless adults despite their higher stress levels horror health and diet, and the cost of raising children. Solo riders enjoy the freedom of being able to travel, move and lack of stress associated with only supporting themselves.
Kids aside is it worth is to associate with people at all? This question may not have an obvious answer if you are an introvert by nature. Extroverts make more money than introverts likely not because they are better at their jobs but simply because more opportunity comes their way as a result of their voracious social appetite. People who are religious are more likely to live longer, wealthier and happier lives and the size and quality of your friend network is a better predictor of your health than how much you exercise. According to these stats extroverts win! I personally choose to interact with a few meaningful people in my life. I think it is partly because I like to have meaningful conversations and conversations with strangers can be repetitive ( I know from my experience as a tour guide which trained me to be a social animal!)
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